When I tell myself I never do something I am always imposing a limit on myself. Just as I am when I tell myself ‘always.’

Similarly, when I tell myself something always happens or never happens in life, I am repeating a limiting mantra of my belief about how life seems to me.

I never quite manage to get to the end.
I always leave when things get tough.
I never date older guys.
I always react that way.
I’ll never get promotion.
I always get left out.
That ain’t never gonna happen.
My boss is always an asshole.
It’s never easy.
It always rains when we have a barbecue.
(OK, in England… this last one just might be true.. :p )

These declarations are nothing more than a confession of the filters through which we see life.

Far from being the words of leaders who have control of their lives, they are the words of victims whose experience of life is compressed by an illusion of control.

They limit our dance to the waltz, or treading on our partners toes.

What if never and always were not true? Under inquiry, they rarely are.

Even the sun rising everyday, for each and every one of us, one day will not be true.

What if we are open to the expansion of infinite possibilities between never and always? What if we surrender to not knowing what is possible?

Let’s dance in the space of infinite possibilities between never and always.

In that space there be joy and miracles.