When I choose to not ask for help I am identifying with my own self-image of separation.

The sole function of the ego is to maintain an identity of a separate self, and hence ego sees asking for help as failure to maintain that separateness. The ego simply sees asking for help as failure.

My not asking for help can be an expression of my own unique separateness, validating my self-image, validating that I can do this alone, which is always a lie. Even the lone cactus in the desert needs the sun and a little rain.

I might also be afraid of how others see me or judge me in my asking. This is a fear that can only manifest in the realm of self-image, because I want you to see me a certain way - independent, strong, or even considerate in not bothering you. In keeping you out, I keep my true essence in, and ultimately feel disconnected from you, the universe, from love.

Only my self-obsession stops me asking for help, and only my self-obsession keeps me disconnected from love.

Yet my heart knows asking for help is an expression of unity and is an invitation for participation. My asking is an acknowledgment that we’re both already at the dance party, even if you don’t want to share this particular dance. We’re already part of the dance, we’re both already dancing with the universe.

Should I be declined my heart knows it cannot be a reflection of me because I am not separate from you. I need not fear not being loved because I know you, and I, are love.

My ego sees asking for help as failure.

My heart sees it as an invitation of unity, participation and love.