My life is full of many distractions. I’m the biggest one.

There’s so much on offer that I can consider about myself, not least that very popular question in coaching circles, “Who do you need to be?”

In my experience this is perhaps one of the most distracting inquiries I can make before taking action, simply because it turns my focus away from the action I want to take and turns it in on myself, an area in which my ego has much interest and investment. As part of this inquiry I’ve managed to move my focus away from something real that I want to create in the world, to a myriad of made-up unreal self-centeredness.

One of my most favourite things to do on this planet is sleep. I usually do it at least once a day, and quite frankly, if I don’t I can be quite the bitch! But I’ve never stopped to consider “Who do I need to be to sleep?” That would just keep me awake!

If there is something I want to do, my most helpful inquiries are usually “What is the tiniest step I can take towards that now?” and “What can I LOVE about taking that action?”

I have a dear friend who’s really into flowers and nature. If we pass some flowers, she’ll often pause to smell them. I’m pretty sure she doesn’t ‘go inward’ to consider who she needs to be to enjoy smelling the flowers. She’s already doing what she loves. When she loves doing something it is not necessary to ask who she needs to be. The only thing she needs to be is present. Presence IS love.

The moment I start asking who I need to be I am caught up in an illusion that I’m some kind of big deal in taking action. That is fraught with noisy thinking because our egos want to believe we are a big deal at the same time as telling us we’re not. So much noise!

The only big deal is love.

I don’t want to help people work out who they need to be in order to do something. I want to help them see that the reason they’re not doing something is because they’ve not connected to loving doing it.
I want to help people see they are already everything and all they need to be to give anything a shot, and it’s only the omming and sitting on their arses, self-obsessively working out who they need to be that keeps them from taking action and being of service.

If you simply do what you love, your true essence of love will shine through. It’s inevitable. There is nothing for you to do in order to work out who you need to be. You are already it - Love!

The problem with trying to work out who you are and who to be is that you can only consciously consider that inquiry in formed thoughts, thoughts that you can only consider intellectually. Yet who you are is not from form, it is from the formless energy of life, of love.

When you stop being distracted by your self-image, when you stop trying to work out who you are and who you need to be, and instead allow your love to flow, you’ll soon see who you already are is all you ever need to be.