Self-love is never about disregarding everyone or someone else. The act of loving yourself can never include having no regard for another’s feelings as a result of your actions.

Self-love is a recognition in seeing your true essence as love, self=love. In that recognition nothing needs to change. There is no prescription in self-love, only recognition. If your prescription of self-love is “I’m going to love myself so fuck you!” or any other version of disregard for another’s feelings, it is not an act of love, and therefore cannot be from your true essence of love.

If any act is not from your true self, it can only be an act from your ego self, and in that, be an act of fear, not love.

Similarly, disregard for yourself in any act of love for another is not a reflection of your true essence, and cannot truly be an act of love. Any sacrifice you make is an attempt to separate yourself from love.

Yet love is not some balancing act between ourselves and others. It is harmonious and inclusive. What we want for others we must also want for ourselves. What we give to others we also give to ourselves.

There is no separation between ourselves and others in acts of love.