By all means have the dark Belgium chocolates, buy yourself red roses, treat yourself to a massage, get down to the gym and feast on spinach soup for lunch. Allow yourself some quiet time, say f**k it and book that holiday, have a sit down with a cup of tea, get a manicure and buy the not-from-concentrate juice. Wear cashmere, go walk bare-foot on the sand, take a candle-lit bath with your favourite novel, even stay in bed an extra hour and forgive yourself of all ills.

I invite you to enjoy all physical pleasures available to us in this wonderful world.

Yet if you listen to your judgements of yourself you are not in touch with what you already are - Love.

Love does not judge. Love does not condemn and hence love does not ever need to forgive.

You don’t need to reward yourself as part of some negotiation of affection for yourself. Any act of self-reward to counterbalance judgement is not an act of love.

Love needs no action or negotiation of judgement. Love is the absence of judgement.

Loving you.